My elderly father, who’s going to be 74 this year, had a major operation on his colon almost a month ago. Initially, my family was afraid that the care at home will be daunting once he’s discharged because we have to take turns to take care of him during the recovery process.
This includes learning to drain a stoma bag, and changing it. Watching his diet and keeping watch on his bowel movements. This is on top of juggling with our other commitments in life – work and personal life.
While this isn’t the first time we had to take care of sick parents, it’s really God’s grace that we were able to find peace and calmness amid the storm of doubt and uncertainty.
This calmness was a deep contrast compared to the last time a similar event happened during my late teens.
During the times when both my parents fell ill while I was still studying in school, I was constantly in a state of deep panic and worry. Back then my faith in God wasn’t strong. Much less the little faith I had in myself. I often felt alone and abandoned in managing that difficult period.
However, unlike the past, this time I told my sisters that we can still balance our role of caregivers as well as live our lives.
Life doesn’t stop when an obstacle or even suffering in any form happens.
In fact, it’s precisely because things can be so daunting, that each of us needed time out for self-care, which includes spending even more quiet time for prayer.
I imagined myself to be like Jesus, being calm during the storm.
Honestly, he’s the source of my strength as my family received grace and mercy from him many times, even when we had little faith in him.
I do feel blessed and thankful that my father is recovering very well despite his age. And thank God for everything – for the peace instilled in our hearts as my family rides this storm together.
“35 That day when evening came, he said to his disciples, “Let us go over to the other side.” 36 Leaving the crowd behind, they took him along, just as he was, in the boat. There were also other boats with him. 37 A furious squall came up, and the waves broke over the boat, so that it was nearly swamped. 38 Jesus was in the stern, sleeping on a cushion. The disciples woke him and said to him, “Teacher, don’t you care if we drown?39 He got up, rebuked the wind and said to the waves, “Quiet! Be still!”Then the wind died down and it was completely calm.40 He said to his disciples, “Why are you so afraid? Do you still have no faith?”41 They were terrified and asked each other, “Who is this? Even the wind and the waves obey him!” (Mark 4:35-41)